Those Insidious Little Irritations

Three nights and four days at the eWomenNetwork Conference in Dallas with thousands of women this past weekend created many opportunities to focus on the negatives, irritations, or changes from previous conferences I didn’t like. Sometimes I succumbed to my desire to express my frustration to like-minded participants; sometimes I found myself  listening to frustrations that I couldn’t relate to; and sometimes I caught myself in time and let the frustration go.

If I had chosen to magnify the little irritations, the disagreements with how some things were done, or my frustration with others, I would have missed all of the gifts. Even those of us who tend to be ‘glass half-full’ people can get caught up in the stress of being at an event we’ve anticipated for months and not having it unfold as we envisioned.

As I shared in my last blog post, stepping back and saying “How interesting” when we experience something that doesn’t meet our expectation can help pull us back from the downward spiral of negative thinking. This is especially important when you’re at a conference, on a business trip, or beginning a vacation.

If we spend too much time wallowing in our disappointments, our vibration drops and we begin to attract in and witness more of what we’re now in alignment with. Then, even the great things are diminished or go unnoticed. We’re looking at the experience through frustration-colored eyes, so we miss so much.

You can learn to adjust your attitude and perceptions by consciously pulling back and witnessing your thoughts and feelings. When you find a pattern that you don’t like, deliberately laugh at yourself and create a new image.

On Saturday evening, after a stressful, yet rewarding day of being part of two back-to-back panel discussions on becoming an author and a few days of experiences I hadn’t anticipated, I was a bit tired and cranky. A group of us from Austin went to dinner. I wasn’t happy with the restaurant choice and could feel myself talking myself into a very negative mood.

When I realized what I was doing, I consciously shifted my thoughts to how happy I was to have my niece in town with me, how much I enjoyed being with the women sitting with us at the restaurant, and how blessed I was to have received so much support and many compliments regarding my book and speaking on the author’s panel. In a matter of moments everything shifted and I truly enjoyed a delicious meal, fun and rewarding conversations, and a delightful evening for the rest of the night. And, the next day, Sunday, held even more positive benefits.

All of this unfolded because I caught myself and deliberately thought my way out of a bad mood. Pay attention today to how you allow yourself to sink into a bad mood or frustration because of the thoughts you create and the feelings they generate. The next time you find yourself sinking into a bad mood, make a game of talking yourself out of it. Aha! That’s power!

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One Response to “Those Insidious Little Irritations”

  1. my dad always called that negativity by those insiduous, little irritations by another name: stinkin’ thinkin’ – and he would agree, we have a choice to our reaction to most every situation.

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